what and why

 

 

Harken is a conversation about our experiences as a fully valid, sometimes messy and complex, wonderful and difficult process. Harken is a way to support each other as we navigate through a constantly changing world of ideas and experiences.  

The idea for Harken came from my own experience of having a child in Brooklyn.

It was not at all what I expected. I found being at home with my baby to be much more challenging than I thought it would be.

It was difficult for me to reconcile the isolation I felt and the needs of my child with my own needs. It was physically and emotionally extremely taxing for me. My family was far away, and my friends were busy living their own lives, taking care of their families and working. I had my child at 40, after living in NYC for 13 years and having a career as a designer and an artist. My self-image changed with the loss of my career and identity as an artist. I was constantly concerned with the responsibility and sudden narrowing of my life to meet the needs of my baby.

My husband lost respect for me because of my struggle. Not because I didn’t show up or couldn’t do it, but because I struggled. He could not understand why it was so hard for me to take care of our child.

The struggle, the questions, the finding your way is everything.